I’m joined by the incredible Ally Hoffman—licensed therapist, founder of Safe Space Healing Collective, and the type of human who lives and breathes what she teaches. With a background that spans music industry chaos, PR, and a full-circle moment into the therapy chair (as both client and practitioner), Ally brings a no-BS approach to healing that’s grounded, real, and refreshingly relatable.

We go deep on what it actually means to do “the work”—from childhood wounds and boundary-setting to that weird guilt of needing help when life looks “fine.” Ally shares her tools, her story, and her very honest takes on everything from emotional regulation to wedding planning.

Inside the episode:
 – What therapy should feel like (and what it definitely shouldn’t)
– The difference between coping and grounding
– Getting over the “I’m fine” mindset and learning to ask for support
– How to communicate needs without sounding like a TED Talk
– Parenting, presence, and holding space for your inner child
– Why helping professionals need better boundaries (and a life offline)

And yes—this one feels a little like free therapy… but way more fun.

WHAT YOU NEED FROM THIS EPISODE:

10:23 – Going through a divorce while trying to pass college exams—fun times

11:47 – What students are really struggling with behind the scenes

18:44 – Childhood play, parenting, and the emotional echoes in between

25:01 – Healthy ways to let your rage out (that don’t involve breaking plates)

30:55 – Sometimes you just need to vent and not get coached

36:09 – Talking to your partner without causing a fight (or an existential crisis)

39:20 – Real relationship advice that isn’t Instagram therapy fluff

44:49 – You can’t give 100% to everything—and that’s kind of the point

51:15 – Therapist boundaries: because you don’t need someone on call 24/7

57:35 – A weirdly effective grounding trick: the alphabet game

01:04:33 – Parenting is a mess—embrace the beautiful, inevitable f*ck-ups

01:05:57 – Tools for helping anxious kids without micromanaging their emotions

01:14:16 – The kind of honest conversation that sticks with you

01:17:52 – Ally’s scuba diving analogy for life, fear, and staying present

CONNECT WITH ALLY:

On IG @safespacehealingcollective

www.safespacehealingcollective.com

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